Technology for MOMs – Create your Digital Presence

Technology for Moms.jpgNothing has helped woman more in last decade than this great enabler called technology. Nothing has opened more frontiers for women in last few years than a magical opening through a tap or a click.

Men could always go out any time, reach out to new set of acquaintances and friends, communicate informally and reap benefits of all such associations while women would be fulfilling their domestic responsibilities full time or after office hours.

Even working women would get to meet a particular set of colleagues only and be a part of some coffee break gossip.

Not anymore.

Technology is the greatest leveller if used judiciously.

It is the greatest gift for every woman, especially mothers.

If you want to ask why, read on:

  • Confidence booster: When young mothers are busy changing diapers, their world shrinks to the cries and sleep patterns of the baby. As they spend more time with the baby, they begin to feel out of touch with the rest of the world.

Not anymore.

The digital world is at their fingertips and keeps them aware and involved. They don’t feel that the whole world has said good bye to them and moved on while they were singing lullabies. It gives so much of confidence to be in the thick of things and not feel ‘written off’.

  •  Opportunity Giver: When mothers are busy raising their toddlers, they want to keep their ‘individuality fire’ burning. It used to be full of guilt pangs in office or frustrated siestas at home. First one to three years of young mothers can be utilised through online courses to learn new interests or expand the existing interests. Visit Udacity/Coursera/EDX and explore a new world of opportunities.

  • Unifier: Business opportunities through networking online have infused women with new freedom.

Blogging, selling products, forming groups online, teaching through webinars are some of the working options which engage women completely and offer satisfaction. Online shopping if used judiciously can save a lot of unproductive time.

While I rave about a positive tryst with technology, I cannot forget the unnecessary use of social networking sites which has become an addiction, a lifestyle menace.

Dear Moms, use technology not to forward recycled, overused and futile messages but to improve your lives.

Use technology not to post innumerable pictures and click ‘react’ button but to create your digital presence.

I will talk about creating your digital presence in the next post.

 

 

 

 

Are you bringing out the best in me?

Extraordinary“Will he/she get mad at me? Will he/she judge me and laugh at me? Will he/she make me feel stupid and useless? How do I make him/her happy? Will he/she leave me?”

Do we come across these thoughts often? It might be any relationship which makes us think like that. It could be your parent, your spouse, your friend or your boss.

These thoughts signal that we are spending our lives with people who don’t bring out the best in us.

Our intentions, as parents, as spouse, as superiors, as friends might be to help our kids, spouse, subordinates and friends but we might not be getting the right results.

Psychiatrists and counselors in Mumbai claim that children as young as six years are showing signs of depression. Psychiatrist Dr. Harish Shetty meets at least one child every day with a strong tendency to die. Children are stressed more due to pressure from school and parents, cyber bullying and reaching early maturity.

As parents, are we bringing out the best in our children?

Childhood is not a parking lot for adulthood. We parents and teachers are guilty of curtailing the childhood and compressing it too. We curtail their childhood by making them compete early, by handing over the gadgets at a ridiculously early age. We compress their childhood by packing in innumerable structured activities to make them a master of piano, soccer and abacus. Can we find ways to bring out their imagination, bewilderment and a sense of happiness in the present?

Ask your spouse if he/she feels facilitated, cooperated and encouraged by your words and deeds.

During my women empowerment workshops, I come across brilliant women who have given up on their enterprising selves owing to lack of understanding and support from their partners and families. Our social conditioning and polarized expectations don’t bring out the best in us.

The tech orientation program offered by MotherCoders  (http://www.mothercoders.org/)to young mothers is an exceptional move to bring out the best in these talented women who can, give an opportunity, balance computing with childcare.

As leaders, do we invest enough time in our team to figure out the kind of people they are, the kind of priorities they have?  

It is generally said that people join organisations but leave their bosses. If a superior stifles your mind, hurts your self esteem or manipulate situations, you will be sulking and fretting over petty issues.

Do you feel embittered and helpless in your important relationships?

It is time to remind yourself that you need to spend your time and energy with those who empower you, embolden you to realize your potential – personally, socially & professionally.

“Ignore those that make you fearful and sad, that degrade you back towards disease and death.” – Rumi

References:

  1. http://epaperbeta.timesofindia.com/index.aspx?eid=31804&dt=20151216
  2. http://www.mothercoders.org/
  3. http://peacefulrivers.homestead.com/rumipoetry1.html