Imagine India Loses the T20 World Cup.

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I know you have started reading this post with fury raging in your heart for me. How can an Indian wish something as unpatriotic as this?

I am saying so because I wrote a post three days ago P & L Lessons from Virat Kohli to drive home some Parenting & Leadership Lessons with the help of current Indian cricketers – Virat, Dhoni & Yuvraj.

Some friends of mine commented that we are obsessed with winning and read too much into successful feats.

Would we be inspired by our team even if we fail?

Can we love people who lose?

Certainly, we can. Rather, we should if we understand the rollercoaster ride called life.

Aren’t we harsher in areas where victory and defeat can be quantitatively measured?

There is a clear cut win/loss in sports, exams, elections. Our perception of a person swings swiftly with the result. We keep judging the performance and we keep juggling our opinions.

Isn’t it possible to enjoy sports/exams without obsessing about the result?

I agree that you are still reading it with fury converting into wrath for me.

Who would want to enjoy an exam and not feel bad on failing it?

Half of the parents sulk all their life as their children fail to make it to their (parents’) dream colleges? Is it worth it?

Every tournament is made up of so many matches/games.

Each life tournament is full of so many such battles.

We cannot win all of them, we cannot lose all of them.

But we can certainly do two things:

  • We can give our best in all the matches.
  • We can enjoy all of them irrespective of outcome.

When Lord Krishna talked about “Nishkama Karma” he wanted us to work with spirit of excellence without worrying about the result.

When MS Dhoni doesn’t sulk after a loss, people feel hurt. Those who have seen a Lotus stand out gracefully in a murky pond know that it requires courage to stay so fresh and beautiful amidst the dirt.

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No water drops stay on lotus leaves due to their super hydrophobic surfaces. These leaves don’t let water drops stay on them. They even self-clean themselves as the tiny water droplets pick up small particles of dirt as they roll. Neither water remains nor dirt and the leaves remain clean.

We could remain as clean as these leaves by letting all the wins and losses roll off after a heartfelt engagement with them.

Detachment doesn’t mean indifference. It means being in the moment, enjoying it to the fullest and letting it go.

A laughter and a tear, both serve their purpose and should be allowed to roll off.

If we lose it, will the same team that we are so fond of today became suddenly worthless? How is that possible?

Even if we lose the World Cup, we can enjoy the moments of great cricket and leave it at that.

After a straight 41 match winning streak, magical pair of Sania – Martina lost in early round of Indian Wells and Miami Open.

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World No. 1 Serena Williams and second rank Andy Murray also bowed out of Miami Open.

Should we start trolling them or start judging their calibre?

Let us appreciate Svetlana Kuznetsova for putting a memorable effort to defeat Serena and move on.

Let us enjoy the experiences, cherry pick our lessons and move on with a smile.

 

P & L Lessons from Virat Kohli

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I accept that I am not a big cricket fan. But I watched the second inning of India v/s Australia match held on 27th March, 2016 during T-20 World Cup.

After watching Yuvraj, Virat and MSD play, everyone was in awe of this superb player Virat.

A patient individual, a supportive team player, an attentive listener, a dependable team member, a fitness enthusiast and an effective communicator.

PARENTING & LEADERSHIP LESSONS FROM VIRAT KOHLI.

1. Virat was patience personified on the crease. He persevered on each ball and collected ones and twos diligently with all the calmness of the world. Though he knew that they needed more runs, he patiently worked his way up. He looked completely unfazed by pressure. As any senior leader or a parent would do, he didn’t let the pressure mount up on him or atleast didn’t show it.

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2.When Yuvraj got injured, any player would have gone anxious. Not Virat. In his speech after the match, Virat emphasized on Yuvi’s contribution and highlighted that Yuvraj made valuable runs and then decided to go. Every organisation wants results at any cost but great leaders will value their team members even if they under perform sometimes. Parents should also be as supportive and accommodating of their children as Kohli was. We mercilessly make the other person feel unwanted / less useful if he is not performing at his best. Virat didn’t do so even during crucial moments. Leaders and Parents in us, please take note.

3.Virat himself acknowledged during his speech that Dhoni calmed him down otherwise he would have become overzealous. Virat listened to Dhoni’s advice with mindfulness and controlled himself. It is not easy to listen to anyone when you are a celebrated player yourself. It is far more difficult to accept that your senior helped you calm down and contributed to your performance. If team members and children could become mindful listeners, organisations and families would be in happier space.

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4. Virat looked dependable and proved his mettle as a dependable member of the team. His demeanor was full of responsibility but in a subtle manner. His passion and dedication was visible when his knees touched the ground after victory and he thanked god but he didn’t wear his contribution on his sleeve, even for a second.

We start shouting about our contribution to our organisation and our family from every cliff but Virat looked completely consumed by his desire to make every ball count.

5. The exemplary running between the wickets by Virat and Dhoni manifests the importance of physical fitness which can be achieved only by sweating it out each day. Virat conveyed the importance of discipline and exercise very simply, when he said “That is what one goes daily to gym for”.

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6. I appreciated Virat not only for his cricket skills but also for his excellent communication skills. He conveyed the team-spirit and the consistent effort of all the players without being arrogant. He spoke with honesty and clarity – two important traits conspicuous by their absence from most verbal exchanges. He started by thanking the crowd. He was overwhelmed, yet spoke like a master storyteller – evoking emotions in the heart of every listener.