Rome visit, June 2008 - 57

Rome visit, June 2008 – 57 (Photo credit: Ed Yourdon)

This is a proliferating breed of parents whom you will identify with immediately.

With our patience plummeting and rigidity on a rise, we are bound to turn into polarized parents.

We have enormous differences with our spouses over plenty of issues.This difference of opinion between two different individuals is natural but when they have distinct, almost opposite views on parenting, they become polarized.When they fail to devise a common parenting mission, they confuse the child and make him insecure.

I, unfortunately , come across many parents during my workshops who try to outshine each other, resorting to blame game or criticism.They don’t even hesitate in turning their children into referees in their embarrassing show of ‘Who is a Better Parent?’

Polarized Parents raise children who can adapt with weirdest of people, courtesy their parents but they are insecure and indecisive.

You may not be the best fitting partners but you have to be like nut and bolt as parents.They have no value without each other.

2 comments on “Are you a POLARIZED PARENT?

  1. shweta bhandari says:

    we many a times get in such situations.i really want to avoid it.but more or less it happens.please advise something very practical that we can really do.


    • drswatilodha says:

      Hi Shweta,
      The best way to reduce difference of opinion is to talk and figure out the areas of concern for both of you(e.gfood is your forte while choosing friends might be his,studies is your domain while playing with kids might be his)talk to your spouse so that you show a united front in front of your child.Be flexible but tell the spouse when you are adapting so that he knows where he has to adapt .
      Good Luck and keep reading


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